Thursday, March 3, 2016

Helping Women and their Pets Escape Domestic Abuse


                She is a beautiful woman with a soul both strong and tender.  The pup catches her eye and, in their silent exchange, even a casual observer can see that theirs is a relationship of trust and gentle love.  As we walk along the forested trails, she tells us of her journey.

                At a low point in her life, she met a man facing similar challenges.  Sharing a common goal of sobriety, they offered support to one another and soon became close friends.  He was kind, attentive, and made her laugh.  The relationship blossomed into romance, they became engaged, and began to build a life together.  It felt almost as if she were living inside a fairy tale with her handsome Prince Charming, but not every story ends with “they lived happily ever after.”

                His interest in conversation waned; it seemed as if he no longer cared to share the details of his day, and became agitated when she spoke of hers.  His tone moved from kind to cruel, he became suspicious and controlling, going so far as to tell her whom she could speak with at their shared place of employment.  At first, she tried to comply and be supportive, hoping that they could navigate this rough patch together, but it seemed that her efforts only made matters worse.  The abuse escalated from emotional to physical and was visited not only on her, but on the pup they had adopted, as well.  In the end, it may have been his violence toward the pup that propelled her to action – maybe she could “handle it”, but she couldn’t tolerate witnessing fear in those innocent brown eyes. 

                Waiting for him to leave for work, she began to formulate a plan to enter the women’s shelter near their home.  She gathered her most critical belongings and took the first step, only to be halted when there was nowhere safe to leave her four-legged friend.  As the staff of the Women’s Help Center, Inc. discussed the dilemma, one of them called the Ethel Fund for advice.  A remarkable network of volunteers pulled together and began what she likens to an underground railroad.

                Later that evening, she and a dear friend found themselves in a convenience store parking lot, close to tears and afraid as they waited to meet a total stranger who would take her companion until pet-friendly housing could be found.  The young couple that greeted them quickly set her mind at ease.  The husband was gentle and kind; the wife compassionate, with a sense of cheerfulness that allowed her to relax just enough to bear the painful parting.   To ensure the safety of both canine and humans, the pup was then taken to an undisclosed location to be fostered by yet another pet-loving volunteer. 

                The separation was tough but the network kept in contact.  In times of doubt, she’d remind herself of the coordinator’s promise: “She’s in good hands.  I would trust this woman with my own dogs, and that’s the same as saying I’d trust her with my life.”

The day of their reunion was emotional.  She visited the foster’s home and was greeted with such exuberance that the heartbreak of the ordeal was nearly forgotten.  The pup bounced about her feet and dashed around the yard, as if to show the many wonderful things she’d been doing: chasing ducks, swimming, herding goats, and stealing the hearts of all she’d met. 

They are safe now, out of reach of their abuser.  Their new home is a happy one, their bond has grown, and she is a stronger woman.  She tears up, as does the author, when she speaks of how she could concentrate on rebuilding her life, knowing that her beloved pet was safe and well cared for.  A note is passed that reads, “You helped a bad situation become a success story.  I hardly even know you but I love you for that.”

               

 

               

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